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Russell Brand on ’50 Shades,’ porn & sexualized culture: Good questions

March 2, 2015 By Anne Leave a Comment

It looks like Russell Brand has struck a chord. The other day the actor, comedian and commentator posted a thoughtful, very personal video about the film 50 Shades of Gray, pornography and sexualized culture that has already gotten nearly a half a million views.

“This cloud of pornographic information and even soft cultural smog like 50 Shades of Gray … is making it impossible for us to relate to our sexuality and our own psychology and our own spirituality,” Brand said. “Whether or not this is porn from a female perspective, it is still the commodification and mainstreaming of soft-core porn. What does soft-core porn do to us? And what does porn in general do to both men and women and the way we relate to each other?”

russellbrandHe quotes a religious leader as saying that porn doesn’t reveal too much, it reveals too little, “extracting sex from its biological, emotional and psychological context,” he said, not to mention its ethical context. From the Journal of Adolescent Health, he cites these effects of prolonged exposure to porn, effects he says he himself is trying to address in his own life:

  • An exaggerated perception of sex in society
  • Diminished trust between intimate couples
  • Abandoned hope of sexual monogamy
  • The belief that promiscuity is a natural state
  • Other effects he cited from a Texas-based psychologist Gary Brooks: voyeurism (looking at not interacting with someone); objectification of women (“Guilty,” Brand said. “I’ve been acculturated; this is something I work on, to see everybody as equal human beings”); “the need to validate masculinity through beautiful women”; “trophyism, women as collectibles”; “fear of true intimacy – inability to relate to women in a real and intimate way despite deep loneliness.”

No question this is sobering (it could well be one of the reasons for the sexual harassment and misogyny that has gotten a lot of exposure this past year, if you remember “#gamergate” last summer?). But it shouldn’t lead to fear or alarmism, which stop rather than support much-needed communication. I like therapist, sex educator and author Marty Klein’s advice not to have big-deal, once-in-a-blue-moon talks with our kids about online pornography, but rather occasional low-key ones tuned to what our kids and their peers may be encountering online, if that’s at all possible.

But the bigger questions Russell Brand raises about our culture are just as important. Children benefit from and respond to honest, respectful questions like Brand’s that appeal to their intelligence and genuinely seek their perspective. Besides, their perspective is valuable, and they appreciate collaborating on problem solving. In any case, they shouldn’t be left on their own to find accurate information. They need to know about healthy, loving relationships and sexuality (see this Centers for Disease Control fact sheet on teen dating violence), and let children you know and love know about LoveIsRespect.org, a helpline that provides research-based information on dating abuse and healthy relationships.

“It’s jarring and distracting. I think what’s happening,” Brand concludes in his video, “is that the circuit in the mind which is connected to sexuality moves very, very quickly, the circuit connected to love and compassion is a little bit slower. So if you’re constantly bombarded with great waves of filth, it’s really difficult to remain connected to truth.” [Thanks to friend and colleague Donna Rice Hughes of EnoughIsEnough.org for pointing Brand’s video out.]

Related links

  • Russell Brand’s “The Trews” commentary: “50 Shades – Has Porn Ruined My Chance Of A Happy Marriage?”
  • My 2012 post “Helping kids who encounter porn: ‘The talk’ x 3”
  • LoveIsRespect.org – a helpline and wonderful resource for young people seeking solid information on healthy relationships and dealing with dating abuse
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Filed Under: Literacy & Citizenship, Parenting, Risk & Safety, Youth Tagged With: Dating Abuse, exposure to pornography, Russell Brand, sexual harassment, sexualized culture

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