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Thank you, Ashley Judd: Of fixing online hate & harm

March 20, 2015 By Anne Leave a Comment

Thanks to #AshleyJudd (you may’ve noticed that her Twitter handle became a hashtag this week), online harassment, bullying, hate and misogyny got the kind of exposure that could actually bring positive change to this global network of ours. It could do that because Judd is not only an intelligent, articulate, high-profile warrior against hate, she’s a warrior for healing. As a human race, we will not end the hate and cruelty online (and keep this global network useful to us) without doing two things: exposing it and healing it.

Ashley Judd (CC licensed)
Ashley Judd (CC licensed)

Judd is unusually effective in exposing it because of her deep understanding of the problem and solutions (personal and collective), her ability to communicate them and her being a huge basketball fan during “March Madness”! In a way, it’s beyond extraordinary what verbal violence a fan’s simple comment – the kind that any concerned fan would make when his/her players land bleeding on a court or field – brought down on her (see the Washington Post for details). In another way, it’s not extraordinary at all:

“What happened to me is the devastating social norm experienced by millions of girls and women on the Internet,” Judd writes in a powerful essay at Mic.com. Online harassers use the slightest excuse (or no excuse at all) to dismember our personhood.”

But she doesn’t stop there. She doesn’t leave us with that potentially demoralizing reality. She knows that exposing hate and violence, and seeing them for what they are, are essential, but she didn’t stop there in her own healing as a survivor sexual violence.

“I am greatly blessed that in 2006, other thriving survivors introduced me to recovery, I seized it,” Judd writes. “My own willingness, partnered with a simple kit of tools, has empowered me to take the essential odyssey from undefended and vulnerable victim to empowered survivor. Today, nine years into my recovery, I can go farther and say my ‘story’ is not ‘my story.’ It is something a Higher Power (spirituality, for me, has been vital in this healing) uses to allow me the grace and privilege of helping others who are still hurting, and perhaps to offer a piece of education, awareness and action to our world…. The nature of recovering from trauma is that it can be ongoing, with deeper levels of healing and freedom coming with indefatigable persistence to keep chipping away at it.”

She sets a profound example for collectively chipping away at hate and violence online too. If we want the Internet to be first and foremost a tool for good, we can’t afford to be demoralized by the evil it exposes. We can’t stop and stay there, like a deer staring into headlights. We can’t afford to make hate and harassment a social norm online by spreading the idea that this is just the way things are in digital spaces. It is too common, but it is not the norm. Heed the social norms research, people! It has shown over and over that people’s behavior changes as their perception about their communities’ norms change. So change online behavior by spreading the truth that most people are civil and respectful online. That’s the norm. [Where youth are concerned, for example, the Cyberbullying Research Center reports that only about a quarter of US teens have ever experienced it, and the Centers for Disease Control‘s latest data shows that only 14.8% of Americans in grades 9-12 have experienced it in the 12 months prior to being surveyed.]

Pushing on for “deeper levels of healing and freedom” is a collective as well as personal imperative in this networked world, where our interactions can have instant impact on each other. The term “user-driven” is a cliché now, but a true one. It really is up to us. Our culture is global now; it’s networked, neural, not hierarchical. We can certainly try to pass intelligent laws to protect the vulnerable and write to people in governments who represent us and we must expose hate, but we also need to disempower it. As Judd shows, that can be done right now – individually, collectively and from the grassroots up – by exposing it as the marginalized behavior it actually is and by demonstrating and socializing solutions such as self-care and compassion for others.

Related links

  • Brilliant thinking: An in-depth conversation about all this at Huffington Post Live with three top experts in online harassment against women, law professor Mary Anne Franks, WAM executive director Jamia Wilson and writer and feminist activist Soraya Chemaly
  • Support for online victimization: An outstanding, powerful service and organization developed by a survivor of sexual violence: the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative, which now helps survivors of “revenge porn,” which is actually neither “porn” nor merely acts of revenge but a digital form of sexual violence
  • Social media cracks down on nonconsensual nudes. This month Twitter updated its Rules to keep users from posting nonconsensual nude photos, Buzzfeed reported, and Facebook “reaffirmed its rule against nudity but made explicit a ban on revenge pornography and is also prohibiting content deemed to promote sexual violence and exploitation,” ABAjournal.com reported. Often referred to as “revenge porn,” only some of the time do such photos represent revenge against an ex-partner (sometimes they’re pure abuse, as in the nude photos of women that Slate reports were posted by fraternity members at Penn State), and they’re not “porn” if nonconsensual and noncommercial.
  • “Online” is real, actually: Another solution we need to start working on is helping our children see that the Internet is not actually inconsequential or “not real,” not the opposite of “real life.” As I wrote earlier this week, Harvard School of Education researchers turned that up in their research, and Judd alludes to it in her essay: “The themes are predictable…. There are more serious issues in the world. The Internet space isn’t real, and doesn’t deserve validity and attention as a place where people are abused and suffer.”
  • Unsticking from negativity – Social psychologist Alison Ledgerwood at University of California, Davis, explains in her TEDx talk why it’s so hard not to focus on the negative
  • The Judd story in Time, The Guardian and MSNBC, amid millions of other search results in Google News
  • On the power of social norming: “Zooming in on social norms”

 

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Childnet International
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Control Shift: a pivotal book for Internet safety
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Cyber Civil Rights Initiative's Revenge Porn Crisis Line
Cyberwise.org
danah boyd's blog and book about networked youth
Disconnected, Carrie James's book on digital ethics
FOSI.org's Good Digital Parenting
The research of Global Kids Online
The Good Project at Harvard's School of Education
If you watch nothing else: "Parenting in a Digital Age" TED Talk by Prof. Sonia Livingstone
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Let Grow Foundation
Making Caring Common
Raising Digital Natives, author Devorah Heitner's site
Renee Hobbs at the Media Education Lab
MediaSmarts.ca
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The Ruler Approach to social-emotional learning (Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence)
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"Youth Safety on a Living Internet": 2010 report of the Online Safety & Technology Working Group (and my post about it)

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