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Stop using the word ‘bullying’ in school, researchers say

June 4, 2013 By Anne 2 Comments

“Bullying” is a loaded term to say the very least, and not using it could not only defuse a lot of fear and harmful overreaction when it happens, it could save lives. I’ll get to the life-saving part in a minute, but first the problem with using the word.

Because of all the (certainly well-intended) awareness-raising and media attention lately, “bullying” has come to mean every imaginable mean behavior – from the rolling of eyeballs “to ‘not wanting to be your friend’ to sexual assault,” USATODAY reports, citing some examples from University of Illinois professor Dorothy Espelage. “The word ‘bullying’ has really obscured our ability to focus on what’s happening to children,” the paper reports.

2013 AERA reportSome of the behaviors people mistakenly call “bullying” are normative or part of being a human being (such as saying something mean when angry or making an honest mistake that one later regrets). Some are cruel and/or illegal. But calling every kind of negative behavior “bullying” is a problem because…

  1. A lot of extra unnecessary fear of tragic outcomes and/or lawsuits gets associated with behavior that isn’t serious and actionable. That deters kids from getting adults’ help in addressing any problem, whether big or small, because adult overreaction can make things worse for kids by drawing unwanted attention to them or something they report.
  2. Problems that are serious aren’t addressed fast enough (if they don’t fit the definition of “bullying” in a school policy) or addressed at all (if they go unreported).

On that second point, Espelage told USATODAY that it’s sometimes hard for teachers to address cruel behavior on the spot because they’re “often hampered by policies that require mistreatment to be repetitive.” She’s referring to the repeated aggression that’s “part of the classic definition of bullying.”

So Espelage and other researchers recommend that we just use the word “victimization” (e.g., see this) – because anytime anyone is victimized, the behavior needs to be addressed, and that word allows for about as many shades of gray as the spectrum of human interaction has.

Parents and teachers need to be able to work with kids – with the focus on them and the situation more than on a policy’s wording. Kids need to feel they can come to us when they’re hurting or seeing someone being hurt, for whatever reason and at whatever level of aggression, and they’re more likely to if we focus on them more than a policy (listening to what happened, getting multiple perspectives, and responding to the conditions of the particular incident).

As for how avoiding the term can save lives, Espelage told USATODAY that she “has served as an expert witness in legal cases in which a child committed suicide after being bullied. In several cases, she said, school staff members said in depositions that they were waiting for the alleged bullying behaviors to be repeated so they could treat them as bullying, in accordance with school policies.”

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  • Great resource for schools!: Professor Espelage and University of Southern California professor Ron Astor co-chaired a task force of researchers that just completed the report “Prevention of Bullying in Schools, Colleges and Universities” for the American Educational Research Association (AERA.net). It contains 11 “Briefs” of about 3-5 pages each (findings, conclusions, references) on, for example, moving beyond the traditional definition, the importance of school climate and a whole-community approach, vulnerable populations, and legal rights.
  • Other researchers agree: “Bullying & peer victimization: Clearer terms, better communication,” which I posted last August (2012).
  • Another great resource for schools: a series of very accessible papers about bullying from Harvard University’s Berkman Center which synthesize peer-reviewed research on the subject
  • About teens’ own terminology: “How teens view ‘the drama'”
  • The Canadian government has just pledged to contribute $250,000 to a youth-led bullying prevention project, the CBC reports. More than 2,000 students will be trained by the Red Cross to mentor peers in bullying prevention workshops in their communities.
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Filed Under: bullying, cyberbullying, Law & Policy, Risk & Safety, School & Tech, school policy, Uncategorized Tagged With: AERA, American Educational Research Association, bullying, Dorothy Espelage, risk prevention, Ron Astor

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